Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Who Wants to Be a Millionaire?

I started looking at all my "To do List", my "wish I list" and "I am going to get to it list".  I began to get frustrated and feeling out of control.  It was though all the list was completely taking over me.  I wasn't marking off any accomplishments at all.  In fact I was adding more and more to the list.  I expressed my frustrations to my mentor.  I wasn't feeling confident in myself and was feeling a whole bunch of self-doubt.

My mentor simply stated, "Shauntae you must focus on one thing at a time."  Funny how I had just read an article on the Internet on how millionaires become millionaires because they focus.  They enter into what is known as the zone.  The don't remove their focus until they accomplish their goal or find that the goal is not worth obtaining.  It was confirmation that I must get in the zone.  This past week I had the opportunity to zone into one thing.  I made an commitment to speak the upcoming week for Toastmasters.  The objective for toastmasters was organization of a speech.  What a coincidence that focus and organization would be what I need to accomplish this week.

I did just that I focused.  My experience with focusing may closely be related to someone attending a drug intervention.  I experienced what I call as "Distraction Withdrawals."  Distraction withdrawals is when you are on chapter 2 of one book and pick up another book.  Better yet in this technological society "Facebook."  Talking on the phone or even getting up to eat snacks.  I must be honest the process of focusing was difficult.  I had to focus on my assignment of writing a speech.  The entire week I didn't pick up a book that didn't pertain to my research.  I didn't browse the net for nonsense.  I kept my eye on toastmasters.  I had to write the speech, memorize and practice the speech. 

I must tell you in order to reach your goals or dreams you must CLARIFY what you and then you must CONCENTRATE.

Step 1. Clarification – Know your dream

So you have a dream and don't know how you going to get there.  That is okay don't worry about how you get there.  The most important factor is that you know specifically what you want the end result to be.  You should simply get a clear picture in your mind of what it is that you want and how it is going to feel when you have achieved your dream.  Take action:  If  there is a car you want want go and test drive that car.  Do whatever it takes to assist you with clearly visualising where it is you want to be. 

Step 2. Clarification – Know why you want your dream
Once you have that clear picture in your head for what you want, then you need to look inside yourself and figure out why you want this particular dream. This will help you when times are dark and you need to remember the reason that you are going through what you need to in order to achieve your dream.

Step 3. Concentration – See your dream Every day, take at least five to ten minutes to close your eyes and imagine yourself as you would be having already achieved your dream. Imagine how it would feel and what would be different. Make it as real as possible. Really get to know what it will feel like once you are living your dream. Do not just imagine it, but feel it as well.

Step 4. Concentration – Work towards your dream
Do something every day that will help you progress towards your dream. This can be just about anything. If you do not know where to start, then use this time to research your dream. In this day and age there is always a way to get information. If time is an issue for you, then look at how you spend it. Do you watch television? Get a video course that will help your towards your dream. Do you play video games? Use your computer to instead find information on how to achieve your dream. What kind of books are you reading? Instead of fantasies or romance novels, try reading a book about your dream. If you only spent thirty minutes each day working towards your dream, you would be amazed how far you could go.

Step 5. Concentration – Be persistent and consistent
You can do every single one of the four steps above, but if you only do them once, it will make no difference. If you do them only occasionally or when you feel like it, you will make little if any progress and most likely become quickly discouraged. You must be consistent with these steps, following them daily, and you must be persistent with these steps, following them until you succeed.

Step 6. Concentration – Live your dream

As you work towards your dream, you will almost always find Nah Nah's (haters, negative folks, dream killers)   Did you know that the most common of these people are well meaning friends and family who care about you and do not want to see you fail. The only thing that they do not realize is that failure is a part of success. You will fall down as you reach for your dreams. Just realize that this is part of the journey and get back up and keep going. When friends or family make their feelings known, thank them for their concerns and let them know that you appreciate it. Then get back to making your dream a reality. The best gift you can give someone is to show by your own example that you really can live your dreams.

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Ladies what is your worth?

There are many reasons I am writing this blog.  My heart is very heavy today when it comes to this subject.  Many of my closet friends and networks are single women.  Women who are very wholesome but haven't had the opportunity to be a reciprocant of real love.  They have been faced with challenges that have caused them not to be married or in a relationship.  Each challenge was presented with its on case.  No one story is the same and none of them handle coping with singlehood the same way.  I admire most and worry about some.  I have found that many women I meet are in search of the same thing a good man which they equivelate to a good relationship.  First in foremost they are in search of the wrong thing.  A good man when they need to be searching within themselves and seeking God first.  Because if they aren't whole which single means whole then they are going to be happy when they get a man period. They want be happy with themselves.  A relationship doesn't start out being great super or lasting if it is only good while it is good.  What do I mean?  When we first encounter someone all we see is the good even when signs indicate the bad.  All we imagine is the future and what it would be like to have this personin our lives day in and day out.  all we can think about is what we gonna do with this person and how they may be the one.  Not turly dechiphering if this dude is worth our time or not.  Notice the word worth.  You don't know what you are worth because you haven't taken the time to measure your self worth.  You have spent every minute trying to find Mr. Right to end up meeting Mr. Wrong. Because you don't know you.  I encourage you to take some time to spend with you. 

Here are some tips:

1.  Create a place that allows you to feel calm
2.  Sit quietly with yourself
3.  Take a mirror and look at you
4.  Realize that this moment is yours
5.  Don't allow others to dictate your time
6.  Follow your heart
7.  Do what is right for you
8.  Don't settle for less
9.  Write down your qualities
10.  Design a vision board
11.  Accept your failures
12.  Start Something New
13.  Dance as if no one is watching
14.  Dream Big
15.  Cry sometimes
16.  Don't punish yourself
17.  Be Free
18.  Excercise
19.  Develop your on tips
20.  Encourage someone else

Saturday, May 8, 2010

Its my 30th Entry!!

It is my 30th entry and the number 30 is special to me because I will be turning 30 on July 3.  Don't you all start sending me birthday gifts and wishes all at one.  For my 30th I have been thinking of ways to Celebrate Life. So I for my 30th Entry I have decided to share:

30 things I like about me!!! Now don't get me wrong I am not conceited or ungrateful.  As a matter of fact it is the complete opposite.  I am grateful and completely happy being who I am.  That is what I want to encourage each of you to be happy with who you are. The media can often times influence you by saying indirectly that  I decided though that if I weren't me then who would be me.  I just don't think anyone can handle being me or do me any justice.  With that being said.  I thought I would find 30 things I like about me that I would share with someone else.  I am happy to be reaching the blissful age of 30.  I am happy that I will be able to see 30.  There are many people who will not or didn't.  Now you are probably thinking well you haven't seen 30.  Well I speak things as they are.  Why because I know God will bless me with 30 years. 

Check out my list and I encourage you to write your own.

1.  I like me
2.  I like my style
3.  I like my sense of humor
4.  I like my creativity
5.  I like my smile
6.  I like my hair
7.  I like my body shape
8.  I like my appearance
9.  I like how I communicate
10.  I like my outgoing spirit
11.  I like that I am a risk taker
12.  I like that I am persistent
13.  I like my feet
14.  I like my lips
15.  I like my life
16.  I like my heart (caring spirit)
17.  I like my optimism
18.  I like my teeth
19.  I like that I am a mother
20.  I like that I am a wife
21.  I like that I am a child of God
22.  I like the fact that I am not perfect
23.  I like voice
24.  I like nose
25.  I like my thick eyebrows
26.  I like my laugh
27.  I like my breast
28.  I like that I make friends easily
29.  I like my heartbeat
30.  I like being me... actually I love all these things about me. 

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Friday, May 7, 2010

Are you only existing? Live Your Life Now

When I get some money! When I move! When I get a better job! When I... the list can go on forever.  So many people refuse to live their life now.  They are waiting for some spectacular moment that is suppose to give them momentum to live.  The momentum to live is when you feel the breathe of fresh air go in and out your body.  Take a deep breathe right now.  Go ahead..stop reading and close your eyes for a moment and breathe deeply through your nostrils.  Slowly release the breathe you took in.  Go Ahead Give it a try.

This activity restores and refreshes your body.  That simple moment in time is refreshing and rejuvenating.  And guess what it is free!! You were blessed to arise this morning from your slumber.  And if you are reading this you are at least existing.  There is so much more to life than just existing.  You must begin to live in your existence.  I don't know if you will admit it or not; but there has been times in my life when life was passing me by.  You still may be in that negative zone or you may be like me and allowed the light bulb to turn on.  There is so much more to be done and we only have one life to live.  I once saw a quote that stated, "You only have one life to live, but if you do it right that is all you need."  I thought that was a very powerful quote.  I've heard many people say if I only had more time in a day or if there were two of me I could do more.  That is not true and you know it.  If there were two of you; there possibly would be an additional unproductive person in this world.  I for one know we don't have time for anymore unproductive folk. 

So, how can you fulfill this day and be a blessing to someone else?  I am certain we didn't get another opportunity at life just to sit around and do nothing.  Nope, we are suppose to live each day to the fullest. You may not have all the money that you wish, that home, or that job.  But you do have this opportunity this moment in time.  So what are you going to do with it. 

I encourage you to live your life now.  You must not wait for what you think as perfect timing.  There is no perfect time.  Just when you think you have it going on; something else goes wrong.  Hey it is just life.  I would like to share with you some tips and encouragement on how you can start living your life now!

1.  Acknowledge your Existence:  So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.

2.  Forgive yourself of the past...The would of should of...:  We get so bogged down in the past that many of us can't move to the future because of our past choices.  I believe that our past is our text book to our future.  The lessons are our chapters that develop us into the the people we are suppose to become.  The lessons from the past are not to burden us but to encourage us to progress.  I have had many setbacks and should have or could have sessions myself.  These sessions only set us back in time and makes us less productive individuals.  So I encourage you to take the past as it it! I know it sounds simple but Let It Go!

3. Just do it!  Like Nike has advertised for years.  Just do it!  It may not be perfect but you will not be a failure because you tried.  That is all that is required the majority of times.  I know this all too well.  I am still learning this concept myself.  But I believe that I have learned a lot from taking opportunities regardless of what the outcome may be.  I decided that somebody is going to have to do it; so why not me. 
4.  Start Small!  Don't take on too much too fast.  The outcome of that is NOTHING!! The reality is that you will become overwhelm, exhausted and discouraged.  So if you want to become a dancer like Michael Jackson.  It may require you to take some courses or watch his moves by video.  Don't try to go on Broadway without taking the correct steps to reach your goals. 

5.  Dedicate yourself to service!  Doing something else to serve someone else.  This helped me out a lot.  I remember one Christmas I didn't have a job.  Instead of worrying and pitying over myself circumstance I volunteered the entire Christmas season at United Way.  This allowed me the opportunity to meet persons less fortunate than myself.  I also learned a lot about myself throughout the process of helping someone else. 

6.  Prayer & Praise are the most important.  Throughout life there will be windfalls and fires.  God may not remove you from them all but he will get in with you and remove the flame.  It will require you to go through.  When you live your life now you can be a testimony to someone else.

These are a brief life changing steps that have helped me along the way.  Share them with someone else.  Stay tuned for more from Sista Saver.  Together we can save money, time and lives.

Saturday, March 20, 2010

Who is Sketching You?

I participated this morning with dozens of beautiful, highly motivated, and loving women in a training session for Girl Talk. While there I found admiration and curiosity towards the women who were participates. Everyone had a special talent and some way we all connected. We all had a desire to be role models for young girls. We all expressed our individualism and desires for wanting to be volunteers. It is very funny how you often time look at the appearance of others or listen to what folks say they are doing in some form of judgment. It either makes you jealous or inspires you to continue to move forward with your dreams. I continued to observe the room and all its embellishments of beautiful women; while doing so I observed a young pretty girl, looking me up and down. I noticed that every time she looked at me she would sketch on a piece of paper. I was sitting directly across from her in a circular seating arrangement. The young girl didn't know me nor had we spoken. I kept noticing her sketch something on a piece of paper. Just thinking highly of me, I quietly reached over to a friend of mine and I said, “That little girl keeps looking at me I think she is drawing me”. My friend began to laugh at me as though I was full of myself. But I knew something was up with the young girl.

The facilitator instructed us to position ourselves under categories that represented our personality type. Upon completion of this activity each of us had to discuss the strengths and weaknesses of our personality type. Of which I am an extrovert. I saw from afar the piece of paper that the young girl had been doodling on all morning. I noticed there were three figures on the paper. All of which represented someone or something. I noted to myself that I had to see what that girl was drawing. So after the meeting I noticed the girl sitting Indian style on the floor. My friend and I walked over to the little girl. I simply asked the little girl what she had been drawing. As I looked at the picture she replied, "You." Although, I had thought the young girl was sketching me; it didn't become a reality until she said you. I was simply taken aback. I really didn't know what to say. Somehow, some way I made an impression on this girl without even having had contact with her. She saw something in me. I don't know what I did to inspire the sketch. I don't know what led her to choose me out of the dozen of women. But I do know I influenced her in some way. She even had above my head the personality type EXTROVERT.

The moral of this story is you don't know who is sketching you. Just as I had been observing and admiring the women in the session, someone was admiring me. I had no knowledge of how influential my presence was. This young girl saw something within me that she felt the need to take the time to sketch. What will your sketch resemble? What young girl has a desire to model you? What young girl is influenced by your behavior? We never know who is observing, who is watching, who is admiring us. So always be positive. Be a shining light to someone. Most importantly what behavior have you displayed? Just like me I didn’t build a relationship with this young girl. I only had one encounter with her and that was my presence. I didn’t have the opportunity to be pretend to be someone else. This young girl had the opportunity to see me just when I thought no one was watching. The sketch she drew of me was a display of her first impression. What little girl is sketching you? Some young girl is watching your every move, your body language, your character, your way of dressing, your style, your smile. Just like I was observing the other women; someone was sketching me. Always remember someone is sketching you.



Sunday, March 7, 2010

I Got A Promotion and So can You!!!

I have been working on this promotion for quite sometime and guess what I got it!!! I am now an Investment Banker for the Kingdom of God.  Today I was rewarded the opportunity to have a title added to the work that I have already been doing.  I have been clipping coupons, investing money, coaching others, and saving the money that God has allowed me to keep.  Now I had to realize that the money wasn't mine.  God actually gave me his heart by saying that he is allowing me to manage his money while here on earth.  What am I saying he is holding me accountable as to how I maintain what he has granted me.  I just can't go around wasting his money on senseless items.  I can't be the slave to my creditors or to things that really want matter in 6 months.  As I look around my home I find things that I don't even know why I purchased it.  Maybe I thought it looked good at the time, or felt as though I needed it.  With this promotion comes a lot of responsibilty. 

In Matthews 25 vs. 14-26 it shows what God wanted his people to do with his money.  He didn't want us to waste it but he wants us to multiply his money.  Just like you would if you were to take a sum of money to the bank.  You don't want it to be burdered in the ground.  You want it to compound some interest.  When you mulitply God's  money you get more, but when you Hoard, stash, cheat, and steal you get nothing and are called WICKED.  You must be about God's business. 

Let me share 5 Principles that I must uphold in my new position:

1.  Ownership- vs. 14...God has given me ownership over his money
2.  Stewardship-vs. 15...I am only responsible for what God gives me..I am not held responsible for what is not given.  In other words I only need to be concerned about what I currently have and not what I wish I had. 
3.  Purspose vs. 16-18.. What is my purpose?  Am I able to fulfill my purpose?  You can't be burden with financial debt because you will not be able to fulfill your purpose due to slavery of the Benjamin.
4.  Accountablity vs. 19 God will hold me accountable.  He will hold you accountable for what and how you are managing the money.  Did you help someone else?  Are you giving?  Are you hoarding?  Are you tithing?
5.  Relationship- As a Investment Banker you must have strong and trustful relationship.  Have you given your life to Christ?  Do you know what he wants you do with his money?  Building lasting relationships require you knowing Christ and having a relationship with him.

I want to thank God for my title of Investment Banker.  Thank God for my opportunity to attend
Nations Ford Community Church today where Bishop Phillip M. Davis, Senior Pastor shared this powerful message.  I hope it touches you and yours.  Stay tuned for 10 Creative Ways to Give. 

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