I started looking at all my "To do List", my "wish I list" and "I am going to get to it list". I began to get frustrated and feeling out of control. It was though all the list was completely taking over me. I wasn't marking off any accomplishments at all. In fact I was adding more and more to the list. I expressed my frustrations to my mentor. I wasn't feeling confident in myself and was feeling a whole bunch of self-doubt.
My mentor simply stated, "Shauntae you must focus on one thing at a time." Funny how I had just read an article on the Internet on how millionaires become millionaires because they focus. They enter into what is known as the zone. The don't remove their focus until they accomplish their goal or find that the goal is not worth obtaining. It was confirmation that I must get in the zone. This past week I had the opportunity to zone into one thing. I made an commitment to speak the upcoming week for Toastmasters. The objective for toastmasters was organization of a speech. What a coincidence that focus and organization would be what I need to accomplish this week.
I did just that I focused. My experience with focusing may closely be related to someone attending a drug intervention. I experienced what I call as "Distraction Withdrawals." Distraction withdrawals is when you are on chapter 2 of one book and pick up another book. Better yet in this technological society "Facebook." Talking on the phone or even getting up to eat snacks. I must be honest the process of focusing was difficult. I had to focus on my assignment of writing a speech. The entire week I didn't pick up a book that didn't pertain to my research. I didn't browse the net for nonsense. I kept my eye on toastmasters. I had to write the speech, memorize and practice the speech.
I must tell you in order to reach your goals or dreams you must CLARIFY what you and then you must CONCENTRATE.
Step 1. Clarification – Know your dream
So you have a dream and don't know how you going to get there. That is okay don't worry about how you get there. The most important factor is that you know specifically what you want the end result to be. You should simply get a clear picture in your mind of what it is that you want and how it is going to feel when you have achieved your dream. Take action: If there is a car you want want go and test drive that car. Do whatever it takes to assist you with clearly visualising where it is you want to be.
Step 2. Clarification – Know why you want your dream
Once you have that clear picture in your head for what you want, then you need to look inside yourself and figure out why you want this particular dream. This will help you when times are dark and you need to remember the reason that you are going through what you need to in order to achieve your dream.
Step 3. Concentration – See your dream Every day, take at least five to ten minutes to close your eyes and imagine yourself as you would be having already achieved your dream. Imagine how it would feel and what would be different. Make it as real as possible. Really get to know what it will feel like once you are living your dream. Do not just imagine it, but feel it as well.
Step 4. Concentration – Work towards your dream
Do something every day that will help you progress towards your dream. This can be just about anything. If you do not know where to start, then use this time to research your dream. In this day and age there is always a way to get information. If time is an issue for you, then look at how you spend it. Do you watch television? Get a video course that will help your towards your dream. Do you play video games? Use your computer to instead find information on how to achieve your dream. What kind of books are you reading? Instead of fantasies or romance novels, try reading a book about your dream. If you only spent thirty minutes each day working towards your dream, you would be amazed how far you could go.
Step 5. Concentration – Be persistent and consistent
You can do every single one of the four steps above, but if you only do them once, it will make no difference. If you do them only occasionally or when you feel like it, you will make little if any progress and most likely become quickly discouraged. You must be consistent with these steps, following them daily, and you must be persistent with these steps, following them until you succeed.
Step 6. Concentration – Live your dream
As you work towards your dream, you will almost always find Nah Nah's (haters, negative folks, dream killers) Did you know that the most common of these people are well meaning friends and family who care about you and do not want to see you fail. The only thing that they do not realize is that failure is a part of success. You will fall down as you reach for your dreams. Just realize that this is part of the journey and get back up and keep going. When friends or family make their feelings known, thank them for their concerns and let them know that you appreciate it. Then get back to making your dream a reality. The best gift you can give someone is to show by your own example that you really can live your dreams.